40 Questions for Couples to Deepen Your Relationship – PsychCentral.comRelationship
How well do you know your partner? Asking them certain questions can help you connect on a deeper level.
When is the last time you had a meaningful conversation with your partner?
Intimate conversations can help build trust and compassion in relationships, deepening your connection.
When you’re transparent enough in a relationship to share your thoughts and feelings, it can strengthen your bond.
If you’re feeling distant or just want to get to know your partner on a deeper level, taking the time to talk, actively listen, and build intimacy can make your relationship stronger.
Opening up to others isn’t always easy, though. That’s why asking questions offers both individuals the opportunity to feel seen and heard, and reduces the likelihood that the sharing feels one-sided.
Building emotional intimacy with your partner means delving beyond the simple “yes” and “no” transactional questions of our day-to-day lives, and establishing an understanding of:
To help build this understanding, you might want to ask more than just the typical “how are you?” and close-ended questions — instead, ask about their past, present, and future, their memories, ideas, and affinities.
When people hear the word intimate, they might presume it’s related to pillow talk. However, intimacy can refer to any acts that deepen and promote mutual validation in your relationship.
Emotional intimacy is when you can reveal your true self to your partner. It’s a feeling of trust and connection that helps keep your relationship going. Think of having a “no-filter” kind of authenticity, where someone sees all of you and accepts it.
The research suggests that in terms of relationship satisfaction, those who had low levels of emotional intimacy with their partner felt uncertain and dissatisfied with their relationship. Because of their relationship dissatisfaction, they were more likely to engage in infidelity.
You can carve out a date night or virtual session for you and your partner to sit down and take turns asking and answering each other’s questions.
Here are 40 deep questions to get you started:
Emotional intimacy in a relationship is important because it builds trust and keeps you satisfied with your bond.
Asking deep, open-ended questions can help both partners be seen and validated by each other. It allows you to share your thoughts and feelings in a safe space where you feel comfortable being your true self.
You can take your time asking and answering these intimate questions with your partner. You may find your relationship strengthens.
If you want to deepen your bond with friends and family, you can find 45 deep questions to ask them here.
Last medically reviewed on March 9, 2022